Crossing out the "Heart" Day

With Valentine’s Day approaching—my thoughts of the holiday has made me think, not just about the single day itself but all the single holiday’s we have year around. In America, we celebrate many, but in the first few months of the New Year (in the north at least) when the arctic air is hitting us, all we can come up with is Valentines Day.  Is that really the best we can do to express love to someone?

Valentines Day is the day we confess our love to someone, hold someone’s hand, and even make cute and kind gestures that range from a kissing on a cheek or lips, or maybe just a simple hug to your grandmother or grandfather. One holiday just meant to do all this. My opinion is, it is just NOT fair.

I recently saw this very cute video titled Valentine's for 56 years about an older couple. They were asked to describe each other's relationship without the word love. It also showed the message of love isn't just for one day. It made me think even more that a boycott of this holiday could be a must. Should boycott the holiday?  Because do we really need a holiday to remind us to tell someone we really care about them?  Shouldn’t we be doing that everyday? Do we really need a greeting card with Valentine’s Day on it?  Can’t we just send a card randomly to that person showing them we care and love them anytime?  Or do we really have to use the cookie cutout of a heart to show our love ones something that should be expressed everyday, shouldn’t hearts be on display every day.

Many people’s opinion is that Valentine’s Day is the worse day to be single or just alone, but I disagree. Other holidays would be terrible if I did not have my family or even friends around. Having a partner or husband is family; they provide love not just for one day, but year round. Having true friends, also provide love.  So why do we have to have one holiday to just do all that?

This year, for the first time in eight years, I do not have a valentine, and as too many, that may seem sad, but I am perfectly okay with it. What I really want is someone that gives and expresses his kindness and love to me every day, and not just a day that gives him a reminder.

Short Man Syndrome

Short man syndrome, according to urban dictionary is describes as an angry male of below average height who feels it is necessary to act out in an attempt to gain respoect and recognition from others and compensate for his abnormally short stature. I think this maybe true, or it may exsist but in another way when it comes to the world of dating for me.

Recently, I got a message from a man shorter than me, it stated the following:

I was not sure what to think after reading it... but he ended up being a very nice guy over a few messages. I do not think I can actually judge like that so quickly. He stated that he was moving to the Milwaukee area. Honestly, I feel like I'd be wasting my time if I even went out with him. Being attracted to someone is important. As he is very attractive, I perfer someone who is taller than me. 

I shared this screen shot with a few friends of mine, I found their reaction to be as classic as mine. 

Text conversations with friends:

Best Friend: Wow that is funny. You would be dating a Brit sized guy (see first post for defintion).

Me: haha!

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Friend 2: That's really pathetic! 

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Friend 3: LOL.... what a d-bag

Me: haha

Friend 3: How did he send that to you!!!? 

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Phone conversation with mom:

Mom: Oh, he seems really sweet Genna. You should go out with him....

Me: Really mom!! I am not digging a guy who possibily has SMS (Short Man Syndrome). 

...on the market

I have been on the market since mid-September 2014, and officially online dating since November. After concentrating on myself for a few months, and loosing 40 pounds in addition to gaining some thoughts about life, I took the time to join a dating website or two. I wanted to keep my options open. Since then, I have gone out with many men "just for drinks," but nobody worthy enough to have a second date with in my opinion.

I have thought about blogging about this dating process for awhile, and made my decision final after receiving a message from a man that stood five-foot-five inches. As my dear friend Brit-Brit described it, it would be like going out with a Brit sized guy (see definition section for details).

I should probably note that I stand about six-foot-one inches. And, as I get flooded with e-mails from shorter guys, I, of course have made the smart move to set up limits to weave out the creeps, such as the ones that mark the age of my father (my dad is 74). Seriously, what are men thinking these days?

Note: The purpose of this blog is to describe my dating experiences from a different angle.



Definitions:

Brit Sized Guy- A man who stands five foot five inches or under and is the same height as most of my female friends. This Brit sized guy probably has short man syndrome as well.